Blame it on Age

When I was younger , I mean very young … I would be so embarrassed by my parents .. I know we all go thru that stage . One of my most awkward moments are when my friends come home and my dad will be in his whitey tighties walking around the house , no sign of remorse nor embarrassment at all … Actually having decent conversations with my girlfriends … I wanted the earth to swallow me whole … Then . 

After a few incidents , I became friendly with my next door neighbor who is European , I would go playing with her in her home . I would happen upon her dad … Too in his whitey tighties … Pls remember this was before the time of the boxers , I then thought … Hmmm maybe this is a common thing ? 

When I had kids , they had play dates and I had to send my son to a play date , I insisted on getting out of the car to greet the parents , in their house. I went down , into the house and the dad was standing there .. In his whitey tighties …. Ummm , I did make the fastest turn around and muttered something I don’t even remember now under my breath , something like ” thank you ” ! Hahah 

Many years ahead … Now , I realize that when I get home at the end of the day … The first thing I do is to take off all my clothes and wear a big T shirt … And of course .. My whitey tighties … 
I Blame it on age . I feel most comfortable now with an old T – shirt , ragged sweats .. And my old old blankie … While I just rot on the sofa .. Watching Chicago PD …. Such is my bliss nowadays .

Last summer , I had some incidents with my kids … Them sort of late bloomers .. Getting into trouble in their 20 ‘s . I was stressed out sitting in my TV room at around 2 am thinking about the kids , in my old T shirt and panties …. Then my son’s best friend walks into the room to try to make me feel better …. I quickly put a pillow on my lap and point down saying …. 

“Yo , I’m not properly dressed” …  To which he replied , ” don’t worry I don’t mind ” …
Ummmm … To which I thought , yo , I mind !!! 
To those who always makes fun of their parents or hate on their parents … A word to the wise …. We all come full circle … We become our parents .

Rika

I love the hunger games , katniss esp.

Being a woman , not exactly a feminist in the real sense of the word . I believe in equality for women, but I do love being pampered by men, having doors opened for me , men basically going out to hunt while I sit in the cave drinking champagne … 

I don’t know if there is a word for that , maybe a libertarian feminist ? That’s why i do adore katniss and hate hate on the twilight series. For me nothing makes more fun of being a woman than the girl in the twilight books. I mean , do pls grow a spine girl and stop oodling the guy like a 12 year old girl with a crush on a 17 year old bad boy . 

Katniss is a woman I admire and adore, because I don’t think I can make the same sacrifices she does. Watching the movies ( I read the books ) , I fell in love with Peeta and all the clumsy ways he shows Katniss how much he loves her . But I know in real life , if I was faced with the dilemma … Peeta , the sweet sweet dear boy , short and not too attractive vs Gale , the tall, rugged , handsome , strong, shit handsome …. You all know who I would pick … That’s probably also why I’m still so single and pushing old age . 

For those reading over the age of 30 ish , remember the old song , going something like – who will you pick , someone who loves you or someone you love … If you are smart like katniss … You will pick someone who loves you … Coz in the end of the day … The person who will be hurt is most likely the stupid fool that loves you more . If you are dumb like most of us women … You will pick the one you love …. And end up single and confused … And many other adjectives I really don’t want to use now . 

Happiness is just a state of Mind 

Sitting here staring out into the vast blues of the sea and sky  contemplating …   Just a few moments ago , panic struck , I was a mess … Running around fixing this and that , furiously cleaning the wooden table tops … Banning the tissue boxes out of the mantle ..
Now in total calm , I realized that most of the stresses of the world is just what out minds make us think . Let me make myself a little more clear . I wouldn’t have been annoyed , anxious , mad … If I had just did the same things , but without all those extra emotions.  The mission on hand would have just ended on the same note .
Perhaps it’s the getting more mature, or more experience that makes me calmer, more calculated and much more toned down . Therefore I want to be able to hand down this small life experience to the younger and faster and furiouser ( I made up that word) … That maybe they can enjoy their young life more than I did mine .
Most of the times I was depressed or down were times I couldn’t achieve what my brains wanted me to do . Whether that was being the best restaurant in the city , being the best mom or just being the best in everything I did , it made such a huge impact on my wellbeing , having to live up to such high standards … Set by myself .

 

Now , I sit back and just relax , and damn … I don’t care what people say and what I achieve .. ( not much now since I sold most of my businesses) . It made me much happier and much more relaxed in my everyday life . Well to be honest it didn’t come immediately … Went thru bouts of depression , and serious lapse  of judgment … Before I got to me .. today .

 

Much happier much more content just because I don’t put pressure on myself .

everything is in our minds … Control our minds and we control our happiness . We are the ones in charge of ourselves .

 

rika

 

Beauty really is in the eyes of the Beholder 

I never really appreciated this saying until a few years ago . We always think beauty is a very generic thing and amplified by the term … ” generic beauty” .. Or classical beauty … Whatever. I find this very untrue from my own experiences … 
Well, I’m not a lesbian , but I do enjoy looking at attractive women and I do get that draw of a women’s charisma if she possesses one . But I am not attracted to the same type of beauty that most average joe’s find attractive. I love women with character or women with some sort of ” flaw” that they can turn into a distinguishing character to make them shine from other women. Easy examples , like Cara’s eyebrows or Kate’s “lazy eye” …  Lara Stone’s gap teeth … The list goes on … 
One has to be quite confident with oneself to be able to pull it thou . I have very thin skin so my veins do show thru my décolletage . When I go to parties wearing a low cut dress it does show thru , and with olive skin and green veins … It’s a bit difficult not to notice .. But through the the years , I have had comments , ” I would love to play connect the veins” , ” very sexy , like looking at a treasure map” … And creativity flows … But I always take it with a laugh and treat it as a compliment . So ,when my skin Doctor got his latest laser machine that can erase veins …. He immediately asked me if I wanted to get rid of those pesky veins on my décolletage . I told him right away …. Doc , don’t you dare touch my veins !!! Many men have complimented me on those green veins …. Doc’s face was priceless … 

In the US most men find me ” like an adolescent boy” , I mean boy – wise . I get taxi drivers , etc asking if I had enough to eat … In Asia , I’m considered a size M !!! Girls in thailand have no intestines  … It’s true , 
So what I’m saying is … Relax , do whatever makes you happy , you will find someone who will appreciate you as yourself , if not in your culture … Then travel , maybe another culture will find you irresistible !! 
A woman is at her  best when she is happy and when she has a glass of cold champagne in her hand …. 

rika

Nomad Life and I ain’t complaining

Humans are a strange lot – ones on the outside want in and ones on the inside want out …

I’m serious , think about it , why do multi-billionaire heiresses end their lives … Well one can argue that most of it is not deliberate , and labeled an overdose . But seriously , if one loves ones life , do we need all those chemical things in our body ? Said by a person who loves her Champagne ( now with the economic downturn , it’s  Prosecco or sparkling white wine , and oh pls don’t get the terms wrong because your French friend will never forgive you for making it ) . 

Thus my point being, us single people … so desperately want to b hitched (I’m sure I’m not alone in this one ) , wasting time and energy with the very lame social dating sites ( more on that one very soon ) going to fortune tellers , voodoo masters … digging Poor St Joseph into my garden … 

And , those who are happily hitched – always says they envy us single people . Maybe their envy constitutes of them not having to sneak around in the middle of the full moon night digging a small hole to dip St Joseph upside down . 

Not long ago (actually just this morning ) one of my good friends (also helplessly single) had a great chat . Maybe it’s not such a bad thing . We can do whatever we want , travel when we want , and most importantly go grab crispy noodles this Friday lunch without having to clear it with the “better – half” person . 

So having written this … I will very bravely delete all my profiles off the SoCial dating sites and try my luck the old fashioned way … 

The times when the only phone available is the once attached to the kitchen wall and most likely the person to pick that phone up is your dad . 

The times we met people at weddings and funerals … 

So I guess that’s where u will b seeing me most at .. Not cosmetic events or fashion shows anymore . 

who is scared of getting old (er)

what is the common saying now ? 50 is the new 30 ?

i remember during high school, most parents (at that era) do take time to pick up their kids. i also remember thinking to myself , wow … i never wanna get old. My high school yearbook still has my quote saying , “i want to be 18 forever” … boy was i so wrong.

18 was not a great year , one has so much doubt , no self confidence , baby fat and (at least in my case and all my friends then ) never enough money . Looking back , i had a head full of heavily afro-permed hair , had to skip meals to save BHT 500 to get into Diana’s … for those who dont know what Diana is … pls ask your parents . Climbing the fence to sneak into school dances in my pajama’s . See ? fashion did make a full circle by now .

Nowadays , i meet women in the early 50’s and boy … they can pass for 35 . Thanks to all the modern technology available . Lasers for everything imaginable , 10 years ago the tell tale sign were knees and hands . Now they have a solution for it .

i guess the only tell-tale sign now is dementia or alzheimers .. that i still have not come across any new medication to stop that . Only early prevention is key . Take your time to have the genetic testing done . it may save your life as it did mine.

A few years ago , my beloved Uncle , who is the only living uncle i have now, was diagnosed with Alzheimers . I was devastated , for me, its the worst disease one can get. i wont want to live if i cant remember my memories, cant remember who my kids are or who my enemies are … can you imagine ? walking into a restaurant and hugging a person whom you have had a beef with for 40 odd years ???? hilarious …

so after the initial shock, i started to remember , it’s also genetically passed on . Lucky for me , apparently it strikes very intelligent persons. so 50 – 50 chance for me (i mean im thick , so the intelligent part doesnt affect me)

i went to my anti-aging doctor and had the genetic test done , its the same on Angelina Jolie did and found out that her breast cancer markers were very high .

At first i told Doc , just do the neuro tests … im not scared of cancer (says ignorant Rika). Doc said “rika , its the same price , so why not just do all the tests ?” well, Doc said the magic words , no extra costs !!”

every story has it’s good news and bad news …. mine was , no markers up for neuro , i guess my forgetfulness just stems from me not concentrating on the “now” . Bad news is that my colon cancer marker was high . when Doc gave me the news , i looked very confused , not scared at all , but Doc , no one in my family has colon cancer ? She just said , go get a colonoscopy in the near future .

of course i sort to brushed it aside thinking … its not accurate , the tests . but 3 months later , i had a lull of a week with no important schedule , so i thought … why not ? lets get the colonoscopy a try .

My middle name is definitely Lucky … bit the bullet . during the colonoscopy , i woke up from the sleeping injections and of couse was screaming and trashing around , the gastroenterologist had to look away from his screen to pin me down … apparently 3 nurses werent enough … after a week when i went back for the results , i got a scolding from Dr . … he told me he almost missed the polyp , and its C1 .

Long story short … Prevention is key . all other cosmetic procedures will keep you looking young , but your insides arent young anymore !

 

if anyone is interested to ask for the names and numbers of my personal Dr’s feel free to email me at : kismetrika@sweetrika.com

 

 

the moment

we always live in another moment. even sitting here … i dont even think about this moment. my soft bed, the cool aircon, my almost full tummy … my mind wonders  to what i would have liked to do today, what if …

i imagine myself doing something else, imagining myself sitting at some fancy place drinking wine … ironic coz a few nights ago, i was sitting with my friends drinking my 7th glass of white wine, and looking at my watch trying to come up with some lame excuse to go home … to my warm and soft bed … with my cool aircon blowing ever so lightly to my shoulders that are jutting out of my fluffy duvet ….

why do we lose our precious moments … to be in the moment … thinking of other moments ??

Smell the youth

life is a funny thing …. one goes thru it almost like its backwards … nature gives us beauty, youth at a time our mental powers cannot enjoy those things. always insecure, full of judgments, and never happy…

then one day we wake up many many days later and finally realizing that none of those things ever mattered. life is as one wants it to be. doesnt matter what other people thinks …. but before one can come to that conclusion, youth, beauty has evaporated.

now i have to come to terms with all the failings i went thru as a young person. how i long to have this old mind, in my youthful body. how much more of life would i have enjoyed if i possessed all the knowledge i have today. what i mean by knowledge is not the academic type, but more of maturity.

now i dont judge anyone, coming to an understanding that we all grew up differently, with different values. one cannot thrust one’s beliefs unto another being. we just have to try to understand the other person , then everything will be so much easier.

expectation is also a very bitter value. some taught me that to be successful one has to have very high expectations of everything … but now i know that expectation is the cause of most miseries ..Image

Hello world!

I live in my little “rika bubble” … yes i know , my friends do tell me every so often , but the few times i tried to venture out in to the harsh reality of “real life” .. i quickly retreat like a turtle into my little bubble of safety …

this here blog , will take you thru my mundane life as a “rika turtle”.

For my dear readers , pls be reminded that what i write will be utter nonsense , and things i experience daily. My ideas are just that , mine. For my anti-aging posts , they will be my experiences but i can say off the bat , i do lots of research and i do spend time on it . Remember we have only this body, so take good care of it